Saturday, October 5, 2013

A Christian's Ultimate Dilemma

Here's a guest post by my friend (everybody's friend), Jeff Gerke

Okay, let's be honest here. How many of us who call ourselves Christians are utterly righteous in our minds? It seems to me that we all live a double life, one in which we talk the Christian talk (and, hopefully, walk the Christian walk), but on another level, our minds are thinking entirely...other...things.
Not very nice things. Downright mean things or selfish things or fearful things or lustful things or jealous things or greedy things or scandalous things--even illegal things. Thoughts that would get us in trouble with our friends, pastors, spouses, bosses, or even the police.

Maybe I'm oversharing here, but I find that I'm fully capable of humming a Christian worship song while simultaneously sinning. I surprise myself sometimes that I'm able to have both parts going on at the same time. You'd think I'd have to shut off the one to do the other, but it seems I'm quite capable of having both in hand at once.

You should see my journal. You'd be shocked at what I lay out before God. (That's why I password protect it!)

This state of affairs bothers me. I've been a Christian for 32 years--graduated seminary and been on staff at a church. I'm confident in my faith walk with Jesus. Now, wouldn't you think that someone like that would be purified in heart by now? Yet I find that my inner voice is both sacred and profane. I am simultaneously capable of compassion and holiness of thought and deed AND of a calculating sort of...un-Christian thought and deed that would surprise you.

The sort of thing that Christian men tell each other on the last night of a men's retreat. And, I assume, that Christian women tell each other...sometime.

My question is whether this is a bad thing or if it's just a true picture of the Christian mind. We look around us at Christian leaders we respect, and we tend to assume that they are as pure on the inside as they seem to be on the outside. But I suspect that if we were to get to really know them, we'd see the humanness and sinfulness still there.

Certainly we've seen so many "fall." So where did the fall come from? Were they total pretenders from the beginning and never true Christians at all, or were they MIXED, like I am, true Christians who just got too far over to that other side of things?

Maybe it's that Christians are the only ones with something OTHER than that calculating sinfulness in us. Maybe unbelievers have just the one sort of thinking most of the time. So is it a blessing or a curse (in a sense) to be possessed of both minds? At least Christians are CAPABLE of true righteousness. Occasionally.

I'm able to accept my situation as being normative for what Christianity really looks like. I know I'm a real Christian even though I have this whole other LARGE part of my brain that doesn't look like what Christianity is supposed to look like. I'm okay with it. I know God's working in me every day.

But I wish I heard more Christians talking about this, admitting their own dark or impure or uncharitable thoughts. And not just individual thoughts, but continuous thinking from a mind that has both light and darkness in it.

Personally, I think many Christians are in a form of bondage over this. We're led to believe that we should be as shiny pure on the inside as we say we are on the outside, and when the reality is that we still have all those "other" thoughts, we condemn ourselves. We succumb to the voice of shame. We redouble our efforts and our prayers and our spiritual disciplines to try to make the inside line up with the outside. And ultimately we fail. Rinse. Repeat.

How wonderful, how FREEING, it would be for Christians to accept that this BOTH/AND situation is normal and to accept themselves in their mental plurality. To understand that it's not only OKAY but NORMAL for a Christian to be capable of both mercy and murder, of love and lust, and that it's only the Holy Spirit in His very, very long sanctification process that can make a change. Our efforts only slow things down.

And to accept that probably we'll be on our deathbeds still thinking holy and heinous thoughts at the same time.

Don't you think a wider honesty and openness about this would be a healthy thing? Or are we too scared to "go first" in case others say, "What? I'm not like that at ALL. What's wrong with you?"

Well, I just went first.

So those are Darth Jeff's thoughts.  Comments anyone?


Karla Akins said...

Well said. And yes, we're all sinners in need of a savior and we all have thoughts we shouldn't think. I get frustrated with my impatience at times. I think I'm walking well when *poof* something happens to show me just how inadequate I am and completely in need of a Savior I am.

We are indeed taught to confess our sins one to another and THAT is where Christians truly fail. We are afraid of being judged by other Christians which is not as it should be at all.

I think Christians are hard on one another. Too hard.

I could go on for hours on this subject because I'm a firm believer in GRACE. Some of us suffer for our sins more publicly than others. And just because we haven't been "caught" in our thoughts or other sins (for we sin daily) doesn't mean we are in as much need of that grace as the prisoner sitting in a cell. Just because you don't get caught doesn't mean you're not guilty. Just sayin'.

Great post.

Ginny Jaques said...

I totally agree, Karla. I hate my impatience. It's especially strange that I only really feel it with my husband. I should be gracious to him, above all others, yet he's the hardest one for me to be patient with. (Especially since he's getting old and hard of hearing! I, on the other hand, seem to get younger and more beautiful every day.)